Good news: Anal sex is becoming less and less taboo. Anal sex provides a different kind of fullness and, with the right partner, can be really, truly intimate especially if it's a first for both of you. Of course, not every woman is going to be into anal I mean, is any sex act a universal turn-on? But many women are here for it, and some can even have full-on anal orgasms. With the right positions and a few helpful pointers, you could be one of them. If it's your first time, check out this anal sex guide from Engle for some solid tips.
The skimmed version: You can and should warm up with your fingers, lube is your absolute best friend do NOT pass go without it , and never switch from butt to vag because bacteria, people!
Now that that's all out of the way, here are the best 15 anal sex positions to try when you're ready. Quick housekeeping note: For consistency's sake, all of these instructions assume you're being penetrated by your partner. But that doesn't mean you can't try a strap-on and reverse roles. Sex-positive, always! This position is perfect for people who are relatively new to anal sex because it's easy to pull off but still hot. You can control how far down you sit onto your partner, so you can go as deep or as shallow as you like.
Do It: Have your partner sit on the edge of a bed or a chair. With your back to him, slide down on top of him. The Lying Doggy is perfect for shallow penetration—which you should definitely try if you haven't already. Most of the nerves in the anus are in the first two inches of the opening, so this is a great way to get that stimulation even if you're an anal sex beginner.
Do It: Lie on your stomach, and have your partner lie directly on top on of you, entering from behind. Have him balance on his elbows for optimal comfort. Anal sex positions are often a face-away-from-each-other kind of deal, but this one allows you and your partner to get some eye-contact in during sex.
That adds to the whole intimacy thing. Do It: Have your partner enter you from the missionary position. Keep your knees pressed against his side to control how deep he goes, putting your hands on his chest for extra resistance. You can also add a pillow underneath your hips, to get the pelvis in the perfect place for penetration. Don't you love that this position is called the Caboose?
While it's a must-try for regular penetration, it's a really sweet one for anal, if you can call anal sex that. You're attached from the torso to your legs and can kiss each other to up the romance. Do It: While he sits on the bed or a chair, back yourself into his lap and spoon each other while seated. It's ideal for shallow penetration, giving your nerve-rich anal opening plenty of attention.
The skin-to-skin contact is also super romantic and sexy. Do It : Have your partner kneel against the bed and you lie across the edge, leaning on one side with your back and obviously butt facing him. Lean back into his penis. Swivel your hips to control the speed and motion. Oh, spooning—the lazy girl's move for vaginal, and now anal, sex.
This position is great when you don't want to make eye contact sometimes, especially when your partner is up your backdoor, you don't want to or feel like busting out crazy moves. Plus, skin on skin is hot. Do It: Both of you lie on your sides, facing the same direction. You bring your knees up slightly while your partner slides up behind your pelvis and enters you from behind. Anal sex in the cowgirl position is especially hot because it gives the person on top all of the control.
It's also super easy for you and your partner to reach around and finger your vagina or rub your clitoris. Do It: Have you partner lie down faceup, then straddle them. Slowly slide yourself down at your own pace. Lean forward, placing both hands on your partner's chest or shoulders. Regular Lotus is touted as one of the most intimate and romantic positions there is. Make it the anal version, and you take that intimacy up a notch okay, several.
Here, you're as close to your partner as possible, and get some eye-contact time that can be oh-so-hot. One note: He'll likely feel pretty deep, so go slow. Do It: Have your partner sit on the bed or couch. Climb on top of his lap.
Reverse cowgirl may not be your favorite for regular P-in-the-V action though your partner probably LOVES it , but in the anal sex world, the position is clutch. You get to control his depth and thrusting pattern with relative ease. Do It: Have your partner lie on his back. Straddle him backward and slide down at your leisure. Have your partner stimulate your clit, while you offer them an ultra-sexy view of your backside. The Spork is really, really hot for any kind of sex—there's the intimate eye contact, the intertwined legs, and the slightly twisted angle of penetration.
Try it as an anal sex position and it might become your favorite. Do It: While you lie on your back, raise your right leg so he can position himself between your legs at a degree angle and enter your anus. Doggy style is the classic anal sex position for a reason: It's perfect for deep penetration, and you can arch your back for even deeper thrusts, which can help target that infamous A-spot. Do It: Get on all fours, and have your partner enter you from behind. From here, your partner can and should easily stroke your nipples or clitoris, too.
The only thing that makes anal even hotter? Turning the kink up, by having you bend forward and your partner restrain your wrists even if it's just with his hands. It's a gentle foray into BDSM Do It: With both of you standing, bend over at the waist.
Have him enter you from behind as he grips your wrists and holds them by your sides. Calling all anal veterans! Not only does the angle give him full entry, you're also in the perfect setup for a finger or two or a toy inside your vagina. The result? Total fullness. Do It: Lying on your back, bring your legs up to your shoulders. Have your parnter enter you from above, using his hands to balance above you.
Raising your hips makes him feel deeper and allows you to reach under you to stimulate your clit with a toy. There's also something really hot about the submissiveness that comes with having half your body consensually! Do It: While on your knees, lean forward and place your chest on the bed. Have your partner enter you from behind. For deeper penetration, have your partner lean back and hold your hips to pull you in. This might be one of the most advanced and extreme, I must say anal sex positions out there.
For one, you need to be able to take all of him inside, since he's more or less sitting on top of your rear. Two, you can't move around much, so you have to be able to withstand all the action, at least for a bit. And three, look at that flexibility! Do It: Lie on your back and bring your legs up over your head. The more flexible you are the better. Try to get your butt as high in the air as possible. Have your partner lower himself onto you. He should have great access to lean down and stimulate your clitoris. Type keyword s to search.
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